﻿<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?><rss xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" version="2.0"><channel><ttl>60</ttl><title>DaveNelsonsBlog.com</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com</link><lastBuildDate>Thu, 11 Mar 2010 09:38:23 GMT</lastBuildDate><pubDate>Thu, 11 Mar 2010 09:38:23 GMT</pubDate><language>en</language><copyright>Copyright 2009</copyright><itunes:subtitle /><itunes:author>Dave Nelson</itunes:author><itunes:summary /><description /><itunes:owner><itunes:name>Dave Nelson</itunes:name><itunes:email>dave@greatlakeschurch.com</itunes:email></itunes:owner><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:category text="Religion &amp; Spirituality" /><item><title>UNLEARNING MONEY... as it relates to God and the Church! (Part 2)</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/03/10/unlearning-money-as-it-relates-to-god-and-the-church-part-2.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>When we "give to God", why do we do it through the local church?&amp;nbsp; &lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;In the first half of the Bible (the Old Testament), God followers were commanded to bring tithes and offerings into the&amp;nbsp;"storehouse".&amp;nbsp;The&amp;nbsp;resources were to be used&amp;nbsp;for the ongoing ministry&amp;nbsp;at the&amp;nbsp;temple&amp;nbsp;(&lt;A href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=malachi%203:10&amp;amp;version=NLT" target=_blank&gt;Malachi 3:10&lt;/A&gt;).&amp;nbsp; Storehouse is an archaic word, but was a place to store food, equipment and valuables.&amp;nbsp; The tithes and offerings were used for the upkeep of the temple, ministry purposes and allowing priests to give full-time attention to God's Kingdom.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Today, we give to God through the local church for similar reasons.&amp;nbsp;Among the many descriptions used for the church in the second half of the Bible (the New Testament), one of the most amazing ones is that the church is God's body (&lt;A href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=romans%2012:4-5&amp;amp;version=NLT" target=_blank&gt;Romans 12:4-5&lt;/A&gt;, &lt;A href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=ephesians%201:22-23&amp;amp;version=NLT" target=_blank&gt;Ephesians 1:22-23&lt;/A&gt;, etc.)&amp;nbsp; That's right, the local church is God's hands and feet on this planet.&amp;nbsp; Collectively, the resources we give are to further advance God's Kingdom in our area.&amp;nbsp; &lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;At Great Lakes Church this includes: mailers (inviting people to hear of God's grace), leasing Tinseltown Theater for a meeting spot, salaries for three people to give full-time attention to ministry purposes, operational expenses, local and world missions, children's ministry, and lots of tech equipment that's needed to continue adding video venue auditoriums (by the fall, we may actually be leasing every auditorium at Tinseltown)!&amp;nbsp; </description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/03/10/unlearning-money-as-it-relates-to-god-and-the-church-part-2.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">9cc1dec3-e887-400f-aa97-d1f5a872e7e2</guid><pubDate>Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:01:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>UNLEARNING MONEY... as it relates to God and the Church! (Part 1)</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/03/09/unlearning-money-as-it-realtes-to-god-and-the-church-part-1.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>&lt;P&gt;When it comes to the church and money, everybody has an opinion.&amp;nbsp; Our attitude towards God and money has been shaped by the media, our assumptions&amp;nbsp;or by personal experience (good or bad).&amp;nbsp; Since we just talked about this on Sunday, I want to blog about God and money this week.&amp;nbsp; To kick it off, this should be the starting spot for our thinking...&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;- Christ Followers have always been marked by a radical generosity!&lt;/STRONG&gt;&amp;nbsp; (&lt;A href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=acts%202:44-47&amp;amp;version=NLT" target=_blank&gt;Acts 2:44-47&lt;/A&gt; and &lt;A href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=acts%204:32&amp;amp;version=NLT" target=_blank&gt;Acts 4:32&lt;/A&gt;)&amp;nbsp; &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;Throughout church history, Christians have approached life with a different economic mindset than most of the world around them.&amp;nbsp; They are not against having nice stuff, but Christ Followers really believe that our biggest investment needs to be in the world that is to come (&lt;A href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=matthew%206:19-20&amp;amp;version=NLT" target=_blank&gt;Matthew 6:19-20&lt;/A&gt;).&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;The reason Christ Followers feel this way is because they've had an experience of grace.&amp;nbsp; Nobody becomes generous out of manipulation, guilt, need, etc.&amp;nbsp; However, when we encounter the grace, love, mercy, compassion and forgiveness of God it absolutely changes our heart.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; If you haven't experienced God's grace, it's very possible that the topic of God and money irritates or offends you.&amp;nbsp; If you have experienced it, then you look forward to giving opportunities.&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;Have you encountered God's grace?&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;If so, I'm sure you could start a list of all the ways this has affected you.&amp;nbsp; So&amp;nbsp;think about&amp;nbsp;this, "How&amp;nbsp;has God's grace&amp;nbsp;affected you in the area of giving and generosity?"&lt;/P&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/03/09/unlearning-money-as-it-realtes-to-god-and-the-church-part-1.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">825e6831-37f0-41f5-8c9d-736e9233ee43</guid><pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 12:10:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>One of my favorite Sundays thus far!</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/03/08/one-of-my-favorite-sundays-thus-far.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>Yesterday was one of my favorite Sundays at Great Lakes Church.&amp;nbsp; We kicked it off by talking about how to unlearn&amp;nbsp;the ways&amp;nbsp;money and God or money and the church relate.&amp;nbsp; This was the second week of our "Unlearning Church" series.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;In the video venue (2nd service), we lost audio feed for 7 minutes.&amp;nbsp; Oops!&amp;nbsp; A freak accident of a small button being touched&amp;nbsp;created the biggest tech glitch we've had since starting GLC.&amp;nbsp; Here is the audio from the first service (the&amp;nbsp;glitch that happened&amp;nbsp;didn't allow us to record second service).&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;On another note, yesterday evening we baptized 42 people and took time to worship our hero (Jesus Christ) w/ music, communion and more!&amp;nbsp; We'll have video of some of our Worship Night later in the week.&amp;nbsp; For now, here is a retro video of my water baptism from my preteen years (gotta love old school camcorders w/ no audio)...&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;EMBED height=300 type=application/x-shockwave-flash width=400 src=http://vimeo.com/moogaloop.swf?clip_id=9965509&amp;amp;server=vimeo.com&amp;amp;show_title=0&amp;amp;show_byline=0&amp;amp;show_portrait=0&amp;amp;color=00ADEF&amp;amp;fullscreen=1 allowfullscreen="true" allowscriptaccess="always"&gt;&lt;/EMBED&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/03/08/one-of-my-favorite-sundays-thus-far.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">c53242d1-bd64-41f4-bac0-5a2cfa7484dd</guid><pubDate>Mon, 08 Mar 2010 16:06:00 GMT</pubDate><itunes:author>Dave Nelson</itunes:author><itunes:subtitle>One of my favorite Sundays thus far!</itunes:subtitle><itunes:summary /><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:block>no</itunes:block><itunes:duration>00:45:43</itunes:duration><itunes:keywords /><enclosure url="http://media.podcastingmanager.com/1/9/1/4/3/143344-134191/Media/Unlearning%20Church%20and%20Money.mp3?ref=rss" length="16385202" type="audio/mpeg" /></item><item><title>Worship Night &amp; Water Baptisms</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/03/05/worship-night--water-baptisms.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>I can't wait for our&amp;nbsp;Great Lakes Church Worship Night this Sunday at 6 pm!!!!&amp;nbsp; &lt;A href="http://greatlakeschurch.com/events/details/worship-night" target=_blank&gt;Click here for details&lt;/A&gt; (you can sign up to be baptized on this page as well)&amp;nbsp; &lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Here are 4 questions I was asked this week regarding water baptism:&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;1) I'm a follower of Jesus Christ, but don't know if I'm ready for water baptism... what do you suggest?&amp;nbsp; &lt;/STRONG&gt;Water baptism is not a "graduation"!&amp;nbsp; It doesn't symbolize "arriving" or "finishing".&amp;nbsp; It's more like the first day of school (just the&amp;nbsp;beginning).&amp;nbsp; Baptism says, "I've accepted&amp;nbsp;God's grace&amp;nbsp;into my life and I'm&amp;nbsp;now following&amp;nbsp;Him one step at a time!"&amp;nbsp; (Acts 8:36-38)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;2) How quickly after receiving God's grace into my life should I be baptized?&lt;/STRONG&gt;&amp;nbsp; As soon as possible.&amp;nbsp; In the Bible, this always happened immediately after someone became a Christian. (Acts 2:41)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;SPAN lang=EN&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;3) I was baptized as a baby, should I be re-baptized as an adult?&lt;/STRONG&gt;&amp;nbsp; Yes.&amp;nbsp; When you were baptized as a baby, it was your parents prayer and desire that you would follow God.&amp;nbsp; Now that you're old enough to believe in and embrace God's love for yourself... this should be something you do.&amp;nbsp; PLEASE KNOW: THIS IS NOT DISMISSING YOUR INFANT BAPTISM, IT IS AFFIRMING WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU!&amp;nbsp; Everyone in the Bible who was baptized did so as an adult.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;4) What does baptism represent?&lt;/STRONG&gt;&amp;nbsp; In baptism, we publicly identify ourselves as followers of Jesus Christ.&amp;nbsp; Baptism symbolized death (going down into water) and resurrection (coming up from the water).&amp;nbsp; We're identifying with Christ's death and resurrection by saying, "I'm dead to my old life and I've been risen to new life through Christ!".&amp;nbsp; (Romans 6:4)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;FONT face=Verdana&gt;&lt;FONT face=Verdana&gt;&lt;FONT face=Arial&gt;In addition to the water baptism faqs on this blog, you can &lt;A href="http://www.greatlakeschurch.com/_media/docs/WaterBaptismFAQs.pdf" target=_blank&gt;click here&lt;/A&gt; for more answers.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;In closing, here is Tony Peterson describing what happens at our worship nights.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;EMBED style="WIDTH: 476px; HEIGHT: 361px" height=361 type=application/x-shockwave-flash width=476 src=http://vimeo.com/moogaloop.swf?clip_id=9893506&amp;amp;server=vimeo.com&amp;amp;show_title=1&amp;amp;show_byline=1&amp;amp;show_portrait=0&amp;amp;color=&amp;amp;fullscreen=1 allowfullscreen="true" allowscriptaccess="always"&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/03/05/worship-night--water-baptisms.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">a3c24553-4ccc-4fa4-8e5e-89d6c5d8a5bb</guid><pubDate>Fri, 05 Mar 2010 13:13:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>UnLearning Church</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/03/03/unlearning-church.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>On Sunday, we kicked off our new series called "Unlearning Church"!&amp;nbsp; The premise is that there is a lot of stuff about church that we simply have to unlearn.&amp;nbsp; Here is what we talked about on week 1...&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;We have to unlearn the idea that Christianity is a race.&amp;nbsp; It's not.&amp;nbsp; Following Jesus is a SLOW process of life change.&amp;nbsp; It's easy to believe that once we embrace God's grace, everything in our life instantly changes (struggles, temptations, attitudes, etc.).&amp;nbsp; This is just not true.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;The apostle Paul, whom many of us picture as a saint, refers to himself as&amp;nbsp;the "chief of all sinners" (1 Timothy 1:15).&amp;nbsp; In Romans 7, he candidly talks about how he often does the exact opposite of what he knows he should do.&amp;nbsp; Most of us don't believe Paul struggled.&amp;nbsp; We think he is being humble, but we are wrong.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Following Jesus is a process.&amp;nbsp; It is a series of baby steps.&amp;nbsp; Don't be concerned with where others are at in their spiritual journey, whether they're in front of you or behind you.&amp;nbsp; Be concerned w/ what your next step is in following Jesus.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Do you need to forgive someone who's hurt you?&amp;nbsp; Do you need to begin giving of your time and serving on a ministry team?&amp;nbsp; Do you need to become more generous w/ your resources?&amp;nbsp; Do you need to go public w/ your faith and be water baptized?&amp;nbsp; What is the next step for you???&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;EMBED height=225 type=application/x-shockwave-flash width=400 src=http://vimeo.com/moogaloop.swf?clip_id=9707726&amp;amp;server=vimeo.com&amp;amp;show_title=1&amp;amp;show_byline=0&amp;amp;show_portrait=0&amp;amp;color=&amp;amp;fullscreen=1 allowfullscreen="true" allowscriptaccess="always"&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/03/03/unlearning-church.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">d6f627ce-e3f1-4c56-a1aa-59be08ed4a6e</guid><pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 14:33:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Kids, Kids, and More Kids!</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/26/kids-kids-and-more-kids.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>&lt;IMG style="WIDTH: 631px; HEIGHT: 410px" src="http://images.quickblogcast.com/1/9/1/4/3/143344-134191/MattCrystal.jpg?a=17" width=695 height=473&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;EM&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;Matt &amp;amp; Crystal Stennett&lt;/STRONG&gt;&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Every weekend, at Great Lakes Church, there are a couple hundred kids packing into movie theater auditoriums and learning about the love of God.&amp;nbsp; Nothing excites me more!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Up until now, Natalie Winnett has been leading a team of 60+ volunteers&amp;nbsp;and helping us&amp;nbsp;welcome 225+ kids every Sunday.&amp;nbsp; As a stay-at-home mom, we knew this couldn't continue forever.&amp;nbsp; Although Natalie will continue overseeing our preschool programs, Matt &amp;amp; Crystal Stennett will&amp;nbsp;now be overseeing&amp;nbsp;our elementary&amp;nbsp;programs!&amp;nbsp; Here is what this means:&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;1) We now have the ability to add more auditoriums for kids and have&amp;nbsp;even better age/grade breakdowns!!!&lt;BR&gt;2)&amp;nbsp;Our emphasis on kid's ministry is only going to improve in the coming weeks and months!&lt;BR&gt;3) We're now ready to welcome and train over 100 more weekly volunteers in our kid's ministry.&lt;BR&gt;4)&amp;nbsp;We're prepared to double the size of our kid's ministry.&amp;nbsp; That's right...&amp;nbsp;we'll be ready for&amp;nbsp;over 400 kids a weekend!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;I'm totally stoked!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Dave&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;PS - If you're a children's pastor, here are the latest toys we've added to our toy collection.&amp;nbsp; Kid's love them!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/Jumbo-Blocks-Standard-Plastic-Construction/dp/B002QTC2M2/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=toys-and-games&amp;amp;qid=1267197532&amp;amp;sr=8-3" target=_blank&gt;Jumbo Blocks&lt;/A&gt;&amp;nbsp;(K-2nd grade)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/Step-Up-Down-Roller-Coaster/dp/B00005KBVD/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=toys-and-games&amp;amp;qid=1267197666&amp;amp;sr=1-1" target=_blank&gt;Roller Coaster&lt;/A&gt; (3-5 year olds)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/Step2-7744KR-Extreme-Coaster/dp/B000QFCUQG/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=toys-and-games&amp;amp;qid=1267197666&amp;amp;sr=1-3" target=_blank&gt;Roller Coaster&lt;/A&gt; (K-2nd Grade... I wish!!!)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/Castle-Inflatable-Bounce-House-Slide/dp/B000W3JIX0/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=toys-and-games&amp;amp;qid=1267197933&amp;amp;sr=1-3" target=_blank&gt;Bounce House&lt;/A&gt; (3-5 year olds)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/Step2-Par-Mini-Golf-Course/dp/B000LY5SES/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=toys-and-games&amp;amp;qid=1267198111&amp;amp;sr=1-1" target=_blank&gt;Mini Golf&lt;/A&gt; (3-5 year olds)</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/26/kids-kids-and-more-kids.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">5a020fcc-b689-4e54-bc7e-46ce3a29a0cd</guid><pubDate>Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:48:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Ted &amp; Gayle Haggard Interview Video</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/24/ted--gayle-haggard-interview-video.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>&lt;EMBED style="WIDTH: 551px; HEIGHT: 355px" height=355 type=application/x-shockwave-flash width=551 src=http://vimeo.com/moogaloop.swf?clip_id=9695771&amp;amp;server=vimeo.com&amp;amp;show_title=1&amp;amp;show_byline=1&amp;amp;show_portrait=0&amp;amp;color=&amp;amp;fullscreen=1 allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true"&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/24/ted--gayle-haggard-interview-video.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">c8539934-de3c-4272-af82-e6046541dc1d</guid><pubDate>Wed, 24 Feb 2010 14:27:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Random Fact: I'm Not a Big Fan of Conferences</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/19/random-fact-im-not-a-big-fan-of-conferences.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>So maybe you don't even care, but I'm not a big fan of conferences.&amp;nbsp; Mainly 'cause I like to ask questions and you can't do this at conferences. &amp;nbsp;Instead, I prefer to participate in&amp;nbsp;something called a&amp;nbsp;"pastors coaching network".&amp;nbsp; These networks are pretty small (10-15 people) and provide many opportunities for dialogue&amp;nbsp;and interaction.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;BR&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;BR&gt;Currently, I'm in a coaching network w/ a guy named Perry Noble (pastor of &lt;A href="http://www.newspring.cc/" target=_blank&gt;New Spring Church&lt;/A&gt; in Anderson, SC).&amp;nbsp; You've probably never heard of him, but here are some things he asked us this week.&amp;nbsp; DON'T TRY TO ANSWER FOR ME &lt;img src="http://davenelsonsblog.com/emoticons/smile.png" border="0" /&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;EM&gt;&lt;BR&gt;*Question #1: What&amp;nbsp;is your church&amp;nbsp;willing to do&amp;nbsp;that no one else is doing, so that you can reach people no one else is reaching?&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;*Question #2: Are you genuinely excited about everything on your church calendar?&amp;nbsp; If not, cancel it immediately.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;*Question #3: What is something that&amp;nbsp;you're currently doing, but everyone else wishes you weren't doing 'cause you're not the best&amp;nbsp;person for it?&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;*Question #4: If someone were to donate X amount of dollars to your church, do you have a vision for how you would invest it in God's Kingdom or would you have to dream something up?&amp;nbsp; Be proactive and not reactive!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;*Question #5: What is your system for recruiting volunteers and developing leaders?&amp;nbsp; If you don't have one or you have a lame one... your church is limited in how many people you can help find and follow Jesus Christ.&lt;/EM&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/19/random-fact-im-not-a-big-fan-of-conferences.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">8ba2658c-b0b3-46b9-a4d7-02b8245994be</guid><pubDate>Fri, 19 Feb 2010 14:07:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Velvet Elvis</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/17/velvet-elvis.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>Here are some great quotes from Rob Bell's book, "&lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/Velvet-Elvis-Repainting-Christian-Faith/dp/0310273080/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=books&amp;amp;qid=1266432880&amp;amp;sr=8-1" target=_blank&gt;Velvet Elvis&lt;/A&gt;".&amp;nbsp; This book is a staring point for me as I get ready for our new series (starting 2/28) called, "Unlearning Church: Getting Rid of Religious Garbage".&lt;BR&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;SPAN id=AA323HQYELDLU1PT9XZM9YAX22OL class=highlight jQuery1266432286913="159"&gt;&lt;EM&gt;"Every generation has to ask the difficult questions of what it means to be a Christian here and now, in this place, at this time."&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;SPAN id=AA21ZIJHPDQPJE57H8D7ZX770JWS class=highlight jQuery1266432286913="165"&gt;&lt;EM&gt;"What is fascinating to me is that at the center of the Christian faith is the assumption that this life isn’t all there is. That there is more to life than the material. That existence is not limited to what we can see, touch, measure, taste, hear, and observe. One of the central assertions of the Christian world-view is that there is “more”.&amp;nbsp; Those who oppose this insist that this is all there is, that only what we can measure and observe and see with our eyes is real. There is nothing else. Which perspective is more “closed-minded”? Which perspective is more “open”?"&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;SPAN id=AA113QNPOZQACRA1W5YCO0AYHY9Z class=highlight jQuery1266432286913="171"&gt;&lt;SPAN id=AA2YYR5NE1091W2SD8PUF0LW4C5_ class=highlight jQuery1266432286913="177"&gt;&lt;EM&gt;"As a Christian, I am simply trying to orient myself around living a particular kind of way, the kind of way that Jesus taught is possible. And I think that the way of Jesus is the best possible way to live. This isn’t irrational or primitive or blind faith. It is merely being honest that we all are living a “way”. I’m convinced being generous is a better way to live. I’m convinced forgiving people and not carrying around bitterness is a better way to live. I’m convinced having compassion is a better way to live. I’m convinced pursuing peace in every situation is a better way to live. I’m convinced listening to the wisdom of others is a better way to live. I’m convinced being honest with people is a better way to live. This way of thinking isn’t weird or strange; it is simply acknowledging that everybody follows somebody, and I’m trying to follow Jesus."&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;SPAN id=AA1Y3BZ0KLHPIH39BNCYQ7I1RW2_ class=highlight jQuery1266432286913="195"&gt;"The moment God is figured out with nice neat lines and definitions, we are no longer dealing with God. We are dealing with somebody we made up. And if we made him up, then we are in control. And so in passage after passage, we find God reminding people that he is beyond and bigger and more."&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/17/velvet-elvis.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">6f021652-7de1-49e2-8ada-b8dfdb5df565</guid><pubDate>Wed, 17 Feb 2010 18:30:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Happy Birthday Great Lakes Church (Part 4)</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/12/happy-birthday-great-lakes-church-part-4.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>Since GLC turns one year old this Sunday, I've decided to blog more than usual this week and write about the challenges we've had in creating a church for people who don't go to church.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Nope, this stuff isn't meant to be negative.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Challenge #3: Resources&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;18 months ago, when my family and I pulled into Kenosha, Great Lakes Church owned nothing.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; No building.&amp;nbsp; No money.&amp;nbsp; No sound equipment.&amp;nbsp; Nothing.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;What we did have was a group of people and churches in Seattle, San Diego, Oak Brook,&amp;nbsp;Urbana, Winthrop Harbor, Kenosha and&amp;nbsp;a few other&amp;nbsp;cities who believed in&amp;nbsp;our dream enough to&amp;nbsp;help us launch.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;The gave generously to something that they will never personally benefit from.&amp;nbsp; It was this group of people who paid for all of our a/v equipment, trailer, children's ministry resources, etc.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;After we launched, the people of GLC began to&amp;nbsp;contribute financially.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;The challenge we've faced is that every time we've reached the point of "self-supporting",&amp;nbsp;it's been necessary to add&amp;nbsp;more auditoriums and expenses to&amp;nbsp;continue welcoming people through our doors.&amp;nbsp; Recently we've added another full-time staff member (since we only have two) and another auditorium.&amp;nbsp; A few&amp;nbsp;friends have continued supporting&amp;nbsp;us weekly or monthly so that we&amp;nbsp;can keep&amp;nbsp;moving forward w/o having to&amp;nbsp;take out any loans.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;My biggest learning in&amp;nbsp;the past year has been that God is capable of providing.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;He has never been stressed, scared, or intimidated by the budget of a church.&amp;nbsp; Not&amp;nbsp;Great Lakes Church.&amp;nbsp; Not any church.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Today I want to thank those of you who have sacrificed financially&amp;nbsp;so that Great Lakes Church&amp;nbsp;can be focused on the mission&amp;nbsp;and not on fundraising.&amp;nbsp; For those of you who&amp;nbsp;continue to&amp;nbsp;give sacrificially, but do not even live in our area, I will never be able to adequately express how grateful I am for you.&amp;nbsp; So far this year (2010), over 40 people have embraced the love and forgiveness offered by God and have become followers of Jesus Christ.&amp;nbsp; You are a part of this!</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/12/happy-birthday-great-lakes-church-part-4.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">60c6c185-0677-409a-94bc-265130415b73</guid><pubDate>Fri, 12 Feb 2010 14:38:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Happy Birthday Great Lakes Church (Part 3)</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/11/happy-birthday-great-lakes-church-part-2.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>Since GLC turns one year old this Sunday, I've decided to blog more than usual this week and write about the challenges we've had in creating a church for people who don't go to church.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Nope, this stuff isn't meant to be negative.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Challenge #2: Staying Focused&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Everybody (including those who don't go to church) has an idea of what a church should look like and do.&amp;nbsp; Great Lakes is not exempt from people walking in w/ ideas and expectations:&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;*Some think the music should be&amp;nbsp;quieter.&amp;nbsp; Others like&amp;nbsp;that we're targeting 20 &amp;amp; 30 year old males who don't go to church.&lt;BR&gt;*Some think we should focus more on world missions.&amp;nbsp; Others like that we focus on church planting and our community.&lt;BR&gt;*Some think we should have extended times of musical worship.&amp;nbsp; Others like that we're sensitive to first time guests and don't prolong the singing.&lt;BR&gt;*Some think we should buy a building ASAP.&amp;nbsp; Others like&amp;nbsp;that we haven't tied up all our resources in a building.&lt;BR&gt;*Some think we should do more creative arts (ie - mimes).&amp;nbsp; Others like that we haven't created that kind of awkward tension.&lt;BR&gt;*Some think we should add mid-week programs.&amp;nbsp; Others like that we keep it simple.&lt;BR&gt;*Some think&amp;nbsp;we should teach every week verse-by-verse through the Bible.&amp;nbsp; Others like that we've adopted the teaching style of Jesus w/ storytelling and reflection on how the Scriptures apply to our life today.&lt;BR&gt;*Some think we should add more ministries.&amp;nbsp; Others like that all of our ministries happen through Growth Groups.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;It's impossible to make everyone happy, so we've decided to do what we believe God wants Great Lakes Church to do.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; That's it.&amp;nbsp; Nothing more.&amp;nbsp; I'm so grateful for a church that embraces the fact we can't &amp;amp; won't do everything.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;EM&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;Today I want to thank the 12 people who moved across the country and started their lives over to start a church for people who don't go to church.&amp;nbsp; God has honored the risk you took and the sacrifices you made.&amp;nbsp; I love you all.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;/STRONG&gt;&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;BR&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/11/happy-birthday-great-lakes-church-part-2.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">2cbff9dc-da87-4925-b25a-0d971caefc66</guid><pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2010 14:02:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Happy Birthday Great Lakes Church (Part 2)</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/10/happy-birthday-great-lakes-church-part-2.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>Since GLC turns one year old this Sunday, I've decided to blog more than usual this week and write about the challenges we've had in creating a church for people who don't go to church.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Nope, this stuff isn't meant to be negative.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Challenge #1: Church People&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;It takes&amp;nbsp;a mature person&amp;nbsp;to say, "I'm willing to give up my preferences for the sake of the mission."&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; On day one, we had a handful of "church people" (those who've attended church for most of their life and call themselves Christians)&amp;nbsp;who we're willing to say this.&amp;nbsp; Today, we have hundreds.&amp;nbsp; Motivating "church people" is one of the hardest things in the world.&amp;nbsp; Every week I see a handful of people who just don't get it.&amp;nbsp; They still think the church exists for their viewing pleasure.&amp;nbsp; The great news is that this is such a small group of people that their attitude isn't affecting the rest of the church!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Today I want to thank those of you who've sacrificed your preferences by doing some or all of the following:&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;*Volunteering on a ministry team&lt;BR&gt;*Sitting in the video venue on a regular basis, to make more seats available in our "live" auditorium for guests&lt;BR&gt;*Stretching yourself in&amp;nbsp;the area&amp;nbsp;of&amp;nbsp;giving and generosity&lt;BR&gt;*Started attending the 9 am service, so that we could make more room at 10:30 am... when more people attend&lt;BR&gt;*Opened your home for a Growth Group to meet in&lt;BR&gt;*Continually giving up your music style preferences or&amp;nbsp;other&amp;nbsp;likes you&amp;nbsp;have&amp;nbsp;by attending GLC, because you want to be a part of a church whose mission is simply to help people find and follow Jesus Christ.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;I realize that it would be much easier for "church people" to join a church where they aren't asked or expected to do anything.&amp;nbsp; That kind of culture creates mean, selfish, cynical, judgmental, self-righteous,&amp;nbsp;and entitled people.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; The irony of serving is that it always brings more fulfillment and happiness to the one serving than the one being served.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;EM&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;"For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others..."&amp;nbsp; Matthew 20:28&lt;/STRONG&gt;&lt;/EM&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/10/happy-birthday-great-lakes-church-part-2.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">9aa696a7-4cba-47fc-8eef-dd368e9d0019</guid><pubDate>Wed, 10 Feb 2010 14:09:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Happy Birthday Great Lakes Church (Part 1)</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/09/happy-birthday-great-lakes-church-part-1.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>&lt;P&gt;We&amp;nbsp;launched Great Lakes Church on the second Sunday of February 2009.&amp;nbsp; From the start, we made it clear that our mission was to create a church for people who don't go to church.&amp;nbsp; If you think about it, this is problematic.&amp;nbsp; It's like creating a coffee shop for people who don't like coffee.&amp;nbsp; The big difference is this: The church doesn't exist for people with a common interest, it exists for people with a common problem.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;What's the problem?&amp;nbsp; People don't know where they stand w/ God... or if there is a God... or if He's a God worth pursuing?!&amp;nbsp; From the day we opened our doors (one year ago) until now, we've stayed focused on creating a place where it's ok to ask questions, or have doubts, or become a Christ Follower w/o changing your personality.&amp;nbsp; &lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;We've tried to help people understand that their&amp;nbsp;spiritual depth shouldn't be measured by the length of a Sunday morning gathering, or by how moved they&amp;nbsp;are emotionally during a service, or by how many verses&amp;nbsp;they memorized&amp;nbsp;in a&amp;nbsp;week.&amp;nbsp; It should be measured by how quick&amp;nbsp;we are to obey what&amp;nbsp;we know God wants&amp;nbsp;us to do.&amp;nbsp; As for where we actually stand w/ God, that should be measured by one thing: God's grace.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;The response has been nothing short of amazing.&amp;nbsp; This past Sunday, we welcomed over 1,000 people through our doors and started using&amp;nbsp;a 3rd adult auditorium.&amp;nbsp; Am I excited? Of course!&amp;nbsp; But I'm also overwhelmed.&amp;nbsp; We've done multiple random polls and have learned that roughly 50% of the people who attend Great Lakes have zero church experience or haven't been to church in 5 years or longer.&amp;nbsp; This week I'll be blogging more than usual 'cause I want to confront the challenges this has created and thank all of you who've made GLC possible.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Today I want to thank those of you who gathered in my parents living room, in the fall of 2008, to&amp;nbsp;listen to&amp;nbsp;a far-fetched dream and join us on the selfless mission of creating a church for people who don't go to church.&amp;nbsp; Most people who attend GLC will never know your name, but you can be assured that someday you will be welcomed into eternity by thousands of people who experienced God's grace because of you! &lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Dave&lt;/P&gt;PS -&amp;nbsp;Here are some pics from one of our fall 2008 launch team meetings:&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;IMG src="http://images.quickblogcast.com/1/9/1/4/3/143344-134191/blog1.JPG?a=80"&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;IMG src="http://images.quickblogcast.com/1/9/1/4/3/143344-134191/blog2.JPG?a=19"&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;IMG src="http://images.quickblogcast.com/1/9/1/4/3/143344-134191/blog4.JPG?a=15"&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;IMG src="http://images.quickblogcast.com/1/9/1/4/3/143344-134191/blog5.JPG?a=4"&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/09/happy-birthday-great-lakes-church-part-1.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">5e57dc1d-3d42-4b93-9b35-30e745797703</guid><pubDate>Tue, 09 Feb 2010 10:27:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Resources for "I Want a New Marriage"</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/08/resources-for-i-want-a-new-marriage.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>For those of you who want to spend time working on your marriage, other than just Sunday mornings, here are some great resources I'd recommend:&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;1) &lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-That-Lasts/dp/0802473156/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=books&amp;amp;qid=1265638356&amp;amp;sr=8-1" target=_blank&gt;Five Love Languages,&lt;/A&gt; by Gary Chapman (sorry to the dudes 'cause the book color is purple)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;2) &lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/His-Needs-Her-Building-Affair-Proof/dp/0800717880/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=books&amp;amp;qid=1265638286&amp;amp;sr=1-1" target=_blank&gt;His Needs, Her Needs&lt;/A&gt;,&amp;nbsp;by Willard Harley&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;3) &lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/Saving-Your-Marriage-Before-Starts/dp/0310259827/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=books&amp;amp;qid=1265638436&amp;amp;sr=1-3"&gt;Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts&lt;/A&gt;, by Les and Leslie Parrott&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;4) &lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Marriage-Participants-Guide-Designed/dp/0310291461/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=books&amp;amp;qid=1265638509&amp;amp;sr=1-1" target=_blank&gt;Sacred Marriage&lt;/A&gt;, by Gary Thomas&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;5) &lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0752837265/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=books&amp;amp;qid=1265638595&amp;amp;sr=1-1" target=_blank&gt;The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work&lt;/A&gt;, by John Gottman (Probably my favorite and the most helpful of all these books)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;6) &lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/The-Gottman-Institute-Love-Exercise/dp/B000VHEL3Y" target=_blank&gt;Love Map Game&lt;/A&gt; (Okay, now you're going to think I'm cheesy.&amp;nbsp; However, this is a great place to start if you're at a dead end in having conversations w/ the person you're married to.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;7) This past fall, I&amp;nbsp;co-led a&amp;nbsp;guys growth group called, "I Want to be a Better Husband".&amp;nbsp; Here are some free pdf files of the homework we had in the group.&amp;nbsp; These ideas should be a catalyst for how to treat your wife or husband!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;A href="http://davenelsonsblog.com/files/1/9/1/4/3/143344-134191/Week_1.pdf"&gt;Week 1&lt;/A&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;A href="http://davenelsonsblog.com/files/1/9/1/4/3/143344-134191/Week_2.pdf"&gt;Week 2&lt;/A&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;A href="http://davenelsonsblog.com/files/1/9/1/4/3/143344-134191/Week_3.pdf"&gt;Week 3&lt;/A&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;A href="http://davenelsonsblog.com/files/1/9/1/4/3/143344-134191/Week_4.pdf"&gt;Week 4&lt;/A&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;8) Need counseling?&amp;nbsp; Here are two local centers we recommend: &lt;A href="http://www.love-light.org/" target=_blank&gt;Love Light Christian Counseling&lt;/A&gt; &amp;amp; &lt;A href="http://www.wellspringcc.com/Home_Page.php" target=_blank&gt;Wellspring Counseling Center&lt;/A&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/08/resources-for-i-want-a-new-marriage.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">b772fc25-fa31-4660-95c0-996f21b62f6c</guid><pubDate>Mon, 08 Feb 2010 13:24:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Ted &amp; Gayle Haggard at Great Lakes Church</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/05/ted--gayle-haggard-at-great-lakes-church.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>On February 21st, we're going to be doing a live interview w/ Ted &amp;amp; Gayle Haggard, former pastors of the 14,000 member New Life Church in Colorado Springs.&amp;nbsp; Recently, they've been on Oprah, The View, Larry King Live, etc. sharing the story of how their marriage survived Ted's very publicized affair w/ a male prostitute.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;So why are we doing this?&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;1) To communicate that NOBODY is beyond God's grace and forgiveness!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;2) To give hope to couples who feel their marriage is beyond repair!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;3) To proactively communicate that you don't have to hide from your sins or live in ongoing shame.&amp;nbsp; Christianity, at it's core, is a message of grace, hope, healing and forgiveness.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;4) To help those who've been affected by an affair learn that it is possible for healing to take place.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;5) To help the church learn that we've got the power to restore someone who fails or condemn them to a life of shame.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;In closing, here is a brief video of the Haggards on Larry King Live (&lt;A href="http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/bestoftv/2010/01/29/lkl.gayle.haggard.sot.cnn?iref=allsearch" target=_blank&gt;click here&lt;/A&gt;)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;
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(James 4:1-3)&lt;/STRONG&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;FONT size=2&gt;Here&amp;nbsp;are&amp;nbsp;some tips to make sure that you don't kill each other during a fight:&lt;BR&gt;&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;EM&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;FONT size=2&gt;a. The way you treat each other when you're NOT fighting is the most important factor for determining the length, intensity and outcome of your actual fights.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;b. It's always best to discuss things ASAP! (Ephesians 4:26-27)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;c. Start the fight off right! (The words,&amp;nbsp;tone of voice and accusations&amp;nbsp;we&amp;nbsp;make&amp;nbsp;in the first 3 minutes of the fight will determine the outcome almost every time)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;d. Fight about the actual issue.&amp;nbsp; (Don't bring up the past or go off on random tangents)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;e. Focus on the situation or behavior, not the person!&amp;nbsp; (There is a huge difference between a criticism and a complaint)&lt;/FONT&gt;&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;3)&amp;nbsp;If you want to continue to focus on your marriage after this series is done,&amp;nbsp;you really need to join a Growth Group that focuses on marriage.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;I highly suggest the "Love and Respect" (Tues 02) or "Marriage&amp;nbsp;Makeover" (Mon 02) Growth Groups&amp;nbsp;.&amp;nbsp; &lt;/STRONG&gt;&lt;A href="http://greatlakeschurch.com/groups" target=_blank&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;You can access our Growth Groups sign up page by clicking here&lt;/STRONG&gt;&lt;/A&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;.&lt;/STRONG&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;4) Within the next week, I'll be blogging about why we've chosen to have a "live" interview w/&amp;nbsp;&lt;A href="http://www.cnn.com/2010/US/01/29/lkl.haggards/index.html" target=_blank&gt;Ted &amp;amp; Gayle Haggard&lt;/A&gt; (Feb 21st)&amp;nbsp;and what we hope to accomplish.&amp;nbsp; I just finished reading Gayle's book, "&lt;A href="http://www.amazon.com/Why-Stayed-Choices-Made-Darkest/dp/1414335857/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;s=books&amp;amp;qid=1265209035&amp;amp;sr=8-1" target=_blank&gt;Why I Stayed&lt;/A&gt;" and it is probably the best book I've read on the importance of establishing a culture of grace, hope, healing and forgiveness.&lt;/STRONG&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/03/marriage-stuff.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">f1ef6385-445b-44d6-a7ce-83703887f956</guid><pubDate>Wed, 03 Feb 2010 14:31:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Upcoming Changes at Great Lakes Church</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/01/if-you-missed-sunday.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>Here are 3 big changes that have happened or are happening very soon:&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;1)&amp;nbsp;We opened another "video venue" this weekend!&amp;nbsp; At this time, we're using it as&amp;nbsp;a "Parents Viewing Auditorium"&amp;nbsp;for those who choose to keep their children (8 years and under) with them in the adult service.&amp;nbsp; I heard great feedback from yesterday and really appreciate parents helping us keep our other two auditoriums free of the distractions that often come w/ kids in the room.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;2) By Easter, we will have a full band in the 1st "video venue" auditorium.&amp;nbsp; It will still be the "not as loud" option, but it will no longer just be&amp;nbsp;an&amp;nbsp;acoustic guitar.&amp;nbsp; By the way, if you play the bass or guitar and would like to try out for the band, please email Tony Peterson at &lt;A href="mailto:tony@greatlakeschurch.com"&gt;tony@greatlakeschurch.com&lt;/A&gt;&amp;nbsp; (As I mentioned yesterday, if you play the oboe, clarinet, trombone or flute... we're proud of you, but there is no need to tryout for the band).&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;3) We will be hiring a full-time kids director before Easter!&amp;nbsp; We are super excited about this.&amp;nbsp; Currently, we have over 200 kids who show up on the weekends.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Ok, if you're confused about the different auditoriums, here is a summary: Auditorium 1 (Live venue w/ full band); Auditorium 2 (Video venue teaching&amp;nbsp;w/ a full live band by Easter); Auditorium 3 (Parents Viewing Auditorium for those who keep their children with them.&amp;nbsp; This is all on video).&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;By the way, yesterday I had about 15 people ask me if the story&amp;nbsp;about my response email to a member of our community who has sent me multiple discouraging emails was true.&amp;nbsp; The answer is "yes".&amp;nbsp; I assure you that I never make up stories.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Dave&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;PS - Here is&amp;nbsp;a picture of "The Spite House" w/ the background cut out.&amp;nbsp; &lt;A href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spite_house" target=_blank&gt;What an amazing story&lt;/A&gt;!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;IMG src="http://images.quickblogcast.com/1/9/1/4/3/143344-134191/SpiteHouseCutout2.jpg?a=55"&gt;&amp;nbsp;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/02/01/if-you-missed-sunday.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">2378ed93-de82-44f2-8278-898874bd8e30</guid><pubDate>Mon, 01 Feb 2010 19:36:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Exciting Changes Happening at Great Lakes Church</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/01/29/exciting-changes-happening-at-great-lakes-church.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>1) Life never slows down!!!&amp;nbsp; &lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;2) This Sunday, I'll be taking 5 minutes at each of our gatherings (9 and 10:30 am) to share with you the next steps for Great Lakes Church (and no, it's not buying a building), but some pretty exciting stuff is right around the corner.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;3) If you haven't signed up for a Growth Group yet, better do it soon!&amp;nbsp; &lt;A href="http://greatlakeschurch.com/groups" target=_blank&gt;They're filling up fast&lt;/A&gt;. (I'm not exaggerating)&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;4) On Sunday, we'll be talking about how to have conflict w/o killing the person you're married to.&amp;nbsp; This could have saved OJ Simpson a lot of headaches (sorry, that was a bad attempt at humor).&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;5) On another note, here are just a few comments we received back from guests&amp;nbsp;this past Sunday.&amp;nbsp; Pretty motivating stuff!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;&lt;EM&gt;"This was the first time I had been to a service in a theater, but it surprisingly wasn't that scary."&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;"Everyone was so friendly, from the person waving to us as we drove in, to the woman who brought an umbrella to us so we got a little out of the rain, and on and on.&amp;nbsp; So kind!"&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;/STRONG&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;&lt;EM&gt;"Put it this way, I'm actually looking forward to attending this Sunday!!!"&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;"Great programs for kids!&amp;nbsp; It allowed my husband and I to enjoy the service.&amp;nbsp; Thank you."&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;/STRONG&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;&lt;EM&gt;"My impression was a great one.&amp;nbsp; It was what I was looking for, but I didn't know it until I was there."&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;"My husband said right away that he would come back again!"&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;/STRONG&gt;
&lt;P&gt;&lt;SPAN lang=EN&gt;&lt;SPAN lang=EN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/SPAN&gt;</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/01/29/exciting-changes-happening-at-great-lakes-church.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">e05810c3-c49b-4f31-84a9-75695c0fa84c</guid><pubDate>Fri, 29 Jan 2010 15:28:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Sunday Recap &amp; Marriage Myths!</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/01/27/sunday-recap.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>"WOW"!&amp;nbsp; That pretty much sums up this past Sunday.&amp;nbsp; Thanks to all of you who volunteer.&amp;nbsp; We were able to welcome over 100 first time guests and even had to open up a 3rd&amp;nbsp;theater as an overflow room!!!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Here is a recap of&amp;nbsp;our&amp;nbsp;"Marriage Myths" talk:&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;Myth #1: Marriage &lt;SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"&gt;CHANGES&lt;/SPAN&gt; people.&lt;BR&gt;Truth: Marriage &lt;SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"&gt;REVEALS WHAT'S ALREADY IN PEOPLE&lt;/SPAN&gt;!&lt;/STRONG&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;This is because marriage is the first time in our life that we experience real stress, pressure or responsibility.&amp;nbsp; We find things in ourselves that we don't like and think marriage changed us.&amp;nbsp; No it didn't.&amp;nbsp; It just revealed what was in us all along.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;Myth #2: The grass is greener &lt;SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"&gt;ON THE OTHER SIDE&lt;/SPAN&gt;.&lt;BR&gt;Truth: The grass is greener &lt;SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"&gt;WHERE YOU WATER IT&lt;/SPAN&gt;!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;/STRONG&gt;What are you doing to water your marriage?&amp;nbsp; What kind of time and attention are you giving it?&amp;nbsp; Are you going on dates?&amp;nbsp; Do you occasionally read a book on marriage?&amp;nbsp; Are you connecting w/ your spouse regularly?&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;STRONG&gt;Myth #3: &lt;SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"&gt;LOVE&lt;/SPAN&gt; is a lot of work.&lt;BR&gt;Truth: &lt;SPAN style="TEXT-DECORATION: underline"&gt;STAYING IN LOVE&lt;/SPAN&gt; is a lot of work.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;&lt;/STRONG&gt;Love is easy.&amp;nbsp; That's why so many people fall in love.&amp;nbsp; Staying in love is a challenge.&amp;nbsp; Jesus&amp;nbsp;addressed this challenge by helping us understand that love is supposed to be demonstrated through action (John 13:34).&amp;nbsp; Love is not a noun.&amp;nbsp; It's a verb.&amp;nbsp; How are you actively showing love in your marriage?</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/01/27/sunday-recap.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">41acb1d0-fa49-4f85-a049-b6f7d63c2154</guid><pubDate>Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:57:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Random Thoughts</title><link>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/01/22/random-thoughts.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>Dave Nelson</dc:creator><description>1) Congrats to Tony &amp;amp; Michelle Peterson on the birth of their baby girl... Claire Elaine Peterson!&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;2) I can't wait for Sunday.&amp;nbsp; I really believe that we'll see lots of healing in marriages throughout this series.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;3) We're very aware of how crowded our auditoriums are getting at the 10:30 am gathering.&amp;nbsp; I promise that our leadership team has met multiple times about this and is currently working on a solution.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;4) Here is the first "heads up" about a new change that is going to be implemented in a few weeks.&amp;nbsp; Starting the first Sunday of March, we will no longer be allowing kids under 6 years old in our adult auditorium&amp;nbsp;(this may change to kids 5th grade and under).&amp;nbsp; The reason for this "blanket rule" is pretty simple... the more&amp;nbsp;Great Lakes Church has grown, the more distractions we've had by kids.&amp;nbsp; After spending countless hours preparing a talk, setting up for our service, getting the music team in sync, etc... we want to make sure we present the best experience possible for adults AND kids.&amp;nbsp; That being said, if you don't currently leave your children in one of our kid's programs I'm asking that you begin doing so right away.&amp;nbsp; This is a HUGE help and will actually make more seats available in the adult auditoriums.&lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;5) Please take at least 5 minutes today and join me in&amp;nbsp;praying for Great Lakes Church... that we would continue to stay laser focused on making it easy for people to find and follow Jesus Christ!&amp;nbsp; The longer a church exists, the easier it is to be come distracted from this mission.&amp;nbsp; May God help us always remember that Great Lakes Church does not exist for "church people"!!!!&amp;nbsp; We are a church that exists for the 70% of people in our area who do not go to church.</description><comments>http://davenelsonsblog.com/2010/01/22/random-thoughts.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">dadf7918-b53f-4d87-bac9-c9aeadb1cde7</guid><pubDate>Fri, 22 Jan 2010 12:58:00 GMT</pubDate></item></channel></rss>